Alone Is Not The Same As Lonely
“Sometimes, you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy your free time being yourself.” Unknown
In what is being termed as the “loneliness epidemic” researchers have found that nearly one out of three older Americans live alone. While living alone in and of itself does not constitute loneliness, there does seem to be a reported increase among the elderly of feeling lonely. I understand the concept of being lonely; however, I do not believe it has anything to do with being alone. I grew up in a large family with lots of restrictions and dysfunctions. I cried myself to sleep many nights and in the midst of all the siblings I was surrounded by, I felt lonely. Now, in the later years of my life I have been alone for over a decade. I can honestly say that this has been the happiest years of my life. My mindset is one of appreciating each day as a gift. I can choose what to do with that gift – ignore it and wallow in self-pity because I have no one to share it with, or embrace it and enjoy the heck out of it. I choose the latter every time. Having been in relationships most of my life, I now enjoy the freedom of being able to do what I want to do and pursue things that interest me. I know that being alone is not everyone’s cup of tea and I respect that there are those who desire to have companionship. To them I say be your own best companion and friend and this will open the door for you to receive someone else into your life.
Dear Angels, this feeling of loneliness is a real issue in the world today. I do understand the need some feel to have a companion and the desire to not live life on their own. What is your message for us regarding this?
Dear Ones, when you feel disconnected from others it is harder to remember your worthiness. However, that sense of worthiness and importance as a being can only be fully understood by going inside of yourself, not outside. While another individual can add to your inner joy and can even confirm that you are an amazing person, you have to be open and willing to receive that message and resonate with it. Start by looking at yourself honestly and asking the important questions about your likes, dislikes, qualities and feelings. Once you know yourself better, then you can start to open up to the possibility of allowing another to see you the same way you do. So many times relationships are rushed into for all the wrong reasons. Loneliness is not a reason to start a relationship. That is coming from a place of lack. Figure out what that lack is inside of yourself first. If you want to receive gifts and flowers, buy them for yourself. If you want conversation, hold one with yourself. Get to know the real you better every day. Write a list of your dreams and desires so you know exactly what you are looking for. Sometimes it is not about having a physical presence in your life as much as it is having your needs met. The miracles happen once you have come to that place of acceptance of yourself and enjoy being with you. You are telling the universe that you are someone who has a lot to offer in life and anyone who comes into your presence will be blessed to be there. Allow the unfolding of the miracle to happen, whether it comes in the form of a love interest or a plethora of loving friends. Enjoy your blessings.
Dear Angels, thank you. I will continue to enjoy my own company and open to every miracle that comes my way. I love you. Namaste y’all.
Today, I promise to see my own worth and allow my light to shine bright, giving more love and light into the world.
Teri Angel is a Happiness Coach, energy healer, best-selling author, spiritual teacher and mentor, and a motivational speaker. Teri is the Peace Campaign Coordinator for We, The World and the founder of a nonprofit organization, Angelspeakers Inc., which offers educational workshops and events centered around environmental awareness to include animals and nature, peace advocacy opportunities and ancient wisdom teachings. Teri’s movement “Peas For Peace” involves strengthening our awareness of the oneness of all, unifying mankind through compassion, peace, love and joy. She was named "She Who Blesses the Sacred Land" during the Peace On Earth Tour and embraces that title with loving grace. www.angelspeakers.com
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